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Our Next Great Adventure: Parenthood

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes...

Baby Novak! ...ETA May 15.

As you may recall, Brandon propped the question last Christmas, and we were married in Mexico in November.

We knew we wanted to have kids right away, so a few months before our wedding, we met with the doctor to talk about trying to conceive. Shortly after....BAM! We're pregnant!

Finding Out

Finding out was the most exciting day of my life.

We found out very early, at four weeks. The amount of happiness and relief I felt was incredible. My husband was also over-the-moon.

As we started to learn more about what it meant to be pregnant, we decided to keep the surprise to ourselves. For one, the risk of miscarriage is so high in the first trimester. But in addition to that, our families were busy focusing on the last-minute details that went into planning and traveling to our upcoming wedding in Mexico.

Breaking the News

We finally told our families and close friends at 13 weeks. We had already had two doctor's appointments confirming that all was well and it seemed appropriate.

Many people were shocked, but for the most part, happy. And it felt really good to finally talk openly about it.

We slowly began telling other friends and family and the more people we told, the more relaxed I felt.

I was most nervous to tell my employer. Many women report being treated different at work, that their employers don't think they're as dedicated to the job, etc. I was also concerned for what it meant for my coworkers who would have to cover my work while I was out on leave after having the child.

I wanted to get ahead of telling at least my boss and close teammates before I started to show and it became obvious.

It's still scary putting it out there. I hear a lot of pregnancy horror stories. I am also constantly in fear of something being wrong at my next doctor's appointment. The other mothers I know tell me that fear never goes away, even after the baby is born.

But I also hear a lot of great advice. And it's really wonderful to be able to talk about some of the weird symptoms I experience and learn that they're normal. The amount of love and support we have in our network is remarkable.

Where We Are Now

I am happy to report that we are at 16 weeks. Another successful doctor's appointment is in the books and while it provides some temporary relief, I'm sure my anxiety will rebuild before the next doctor's appointment.

We're going through the mental planning that every new parent much money do we need to be making? How much is childcare? How long does the baby sleep in our room? What is Butt Paste? Will the child look like me or you?

It's a lot of fun. Scary, yes. Crazy, yes. And fun.

We’re Married!

I have just returned from the best trip of my life...our wedding trip.

Brandon and I planned this day for almost a year since Our Engagement and it was more wonderful than I ever could have imagined.

We were married at Now Jade in Puerto Morelos, Mexico and 29 of our close friends and family were there to celebrate with us.

A beautiful location, warm weather, handsome groom and even a FLASH MOB. Yes, that’s right! My mom and aunt put together a dance and sent it to our guests to learn. We were completely blown away!

We are so blessed to have so many special people be a part of our day and our lives. And beyond that we are so blessed to have found each other.

Our dream wedding was just the first day in the next chapter of our lifetime we get to spend together.

We Are Engaged!

I am so happy to announce that Brandon and I are engaged!

I am not the kind of girl who dreamed of a fairy tail ending or has imagined her wedding since she was a little girl. I've really always prided myself on being a strong, independent woman. And then I met Brandon, who showed me that strong, independent women can also have their fairy tail endings.

Here is the rundown of our relationship:

We met at a bar (the classiest place to meet the love of your life), spent nearly every day together after that, moved in together after 6 months, engaged at a year.

Now let's get to the good stuff, why don't we? The engagement...

Brandon and I had been living together since July. We had met a few days before Christmas the previous year, so this was our first real Christmas together as a couple. I had been planning for weeks, making sure to spoil him rotten. Brandon, meanwhile, wouldn't even let me get a real Christmas tree. Don't worry, he finally settled and bought me a 4-foot tree that we kept on the counter in the kitchen.

His Christmas presents were coming in the mail weekly and while I delighted in wrapping them and putting them under our tiny tree, Brandon would tell me that I was getting coal for Christmas. He's a real romantic, that Brandon!

Christmas Day rolled around and we exchange our presents. I made him go first because I was so excited to see him open his gifts. A custom-fitted shirt, a painted canvas of Coors Field, a custom drawing of his '66 Chevy Nova (the true love of his life), etc.

Then it's my turn! He hands me two small boxes....not ring-size, but like...socks-size. I open the first one and it's.......socks. Fluffy socks. In all seriousness I loved them, so it wasn't a bad gift. No custom drawing of my post prized possession, but it was cute.

I open my next box and it's....socks. Fluffy ones, still! And a book light. A rechargeable LED one, though, which is pretty badass. In my mind I'm thinking, "Sweet Brandon. At least he knows me well and knows I love to cuddle up at night in some cozy socks and read my books."

Fast-forward to later when Brandon randomly said to me, "Hey, look! Santa stopped by!" And from under the tree he pulls out two more boxes, same size and shape as the first two. I open the first one and it's a Bed, Bath and Beyond gift card. Awesome! There is one down the street from us and I spend an unhealthy amount of time shopping there, so Santa did good on that one!

I open up the next one and it's....SOCKS! I'm like, "Man! Santa sure does want to make sure my feet stay warm!" But I notice this weird lump in the bottom of one of the socks and I'm thinking, "reeeeeaaaal funny, Brandon, sticking a lump of coal in there!" (We had spent a lot of time joking about getting each other coal for Christmas). But it wasn't coal. It was a tiny box, which I opened up to find the most beautiful ring.

I literally just stared at it and Brandon asked me, "do you know what that is?"

Dumbfounded, all I could answer was, "No..."

He took the box, got down on one knee and popped the question.

It was like the movies, I swear. I cried like a little baby.

Side note: Why do girls always cry when their boyfriend proposes? It's such a weird reaction...

I said yes, we're getting married in November and we lived happily ever after.

In all seriousness, it was awesome. Being engaged is this incredible feeling where all of a sudden trivial things don't matter anymore. Ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends are meaningless, silly fights seem extra silly.

But I also started to look at things in a different, cooler way. For example, we had been living in Brandon's house, but I no longer thought of it as "Brandon's house." It's ours. We live here. I'm excited to think about the cool renovations we can make if we stay here long-term.

The future is something I think about a lot more, too. And the decisions we make. Like, we've always been really careful about not drinking and driving but neither of us will say no to a beer with a friend after work. Well now that we're getting married and making life plans, drinking a beer before driving home seems like a stupid risk to take. Instead, we just make plans to either take an Uber home, or have the sober one come pick is up after we're done hanging with our friends.

It's crazy, it's fun, and it's not a feeling I would trade for the world. I am OFFICIALLY making forever plans with the love of my life. How lucky am I? To officially be #NearlyNovak